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Do you have control issues?  Has anyone told you that you are controlling?  This meditation will help you learn to let go.

Benefits

·      Makes life more pleasant for you and others

·      Helps you understand that everything changes

·      Helps you learn to let go of wanting to control everything

Do you always have to be on top?

Do you always have to be on top?

If you are a controlling person, it is important to get beyond your symptoms – your need to control the actions of your loved ones or to have the magazines on the coffee table just so – and ask yourself what you are afraid of.  Fear usually motivates the desire to control others or your physical space.

Meditation

When

If you have received many complaints about your controlling behaviour, you might want to try this meditation.

Preparation

Write about three occasions on which you can remember feeling anxiety and wanting to control someone else’s behaviour, even if it seemed justified to you at the time.

Practice

1.    Sit on a cushion or chair in your meditation space.  Watch your breath for five minutes.

2.    Choose one of the events you listed.  Try to recall it in detail.  Feel what you were feeling at the time.  Perhaps your partner moved a chair and didn’t move it back to where you had placed it when he or she left the room.  Was your first feeling one of anger?

3.    Ask yourself why it is so important to have things the way you want them, especially since you are sharing your life with another person.  If you weren’t feeling anger, would you feel fear?  Are you afraid something may happen unexpectedly and you will feel powerless, alone, abandoned?  Are you trying to ward off unexpected and hurtful things happening by trying to control your environment, the people around you and the future?  Explore the fear behind your need to control.

4.    Commit to letting go a little at a time on a daily basis by looking for the fear behind the need for you to control.  Relax your grip on things and notice that usually nothing terrible happens.  Be kind and patient with yourself in this process.

The Meditation Bible
Madonna Gauding

Alexia Miall

Alexia co-facilitates Meditate for Life (in Sydney) and Take a Stand for Life (in Bundanoon).

Alexia’s career began in banking and then moved via advertising to a major career change in 1980 to Adult and Transformational Education.  She has been privileged to share this incredible journey with 1000’s of like minded souls through her extensive experience as a facilitator, trainer, life coach, therapist, and mentor.  She managed her own training company in Victoria during the 1990’s, and during this time was the Course Leader for a training program from which the Banksia Environmental Foundation formed.

Alexia has acquired further education in Adult Education in Training; Somatic Psychotherapy; Life Coaching; Conflict Resolution; plus Accreditation in many behavioural and culture change models. She is an Associate of EcoSTEPS, a niche Sustainability consultancy, which supports her love of the natural environment.

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Is your glass half full?

Is your glass half full?

It is easy to take what you have for granted and be chronically dissatisfied.  Focusing on what blessings you have can transform your mind and your life.

Benefits

  • Provides antidote to chronic dissatisfaction
  • Increases your awareness of your blessings
  • Helps you stay in the present moment

It is so easy to be caught up in feeling a chronic sense of lack, encouraged by a culture that says you never have enough and are never good enough.  You may find yourself fixated on that new car, a better relationship, new towels or a different place to live as the key to making you a happier person.  But you may have noticed, seeing your glass half-empty all the time makes for a miserable life.  Always looking to the future means you aren’t really present in the life you have right now.  By meditating on gratitude on a daily basis, you will reduce your dissatisfaction and increase your contentment with the life you have.  Happiness, you will discover, is ultimately a state of mind.

Meditation

When

If you are preoccupied with wanting things you don’t have.

Preparation

Write down everything you want that you don’t have.

Then write down ten things you are grateful for.

Practice

  1. Find time to be alone in a place where you will not be disturbed.  Sit in any way that makes you comfortable.  After doing the preliminary exercise above, read over the ten things that you have listed.
  2. Generate a sincere sense of gratitude for each item on your list.  If you are grateful for your health, feel thankful for your good fortune.  If you have a car, no matter what condition, be sincerely grateful to have transportation.  If you have a partner, think of their wonderful qualities and be grateful that they are a part of your life.
  3. After you have gone through your list, sit quietly and thank yourself, God, the universe, or whomever or whatever you choose, for the gifts you have been given.  Resolve, on a daily basis, to be mindful and grateful for the blessings you have.

From the The Meditation Bible by Madonna Gauding.

Alexia Miall

Alexia Miall

Alexia Miall

Alexia’s career began in banking and then moved via advertising to a major career change in 1980 to Adult and Transformational Education.  She has been privileged to share this incredible journey with 1000’s of like minded souls through her extensive experience as a facilitator, trainer, life coach, therapist, and mentor.  She managed her own training company in Victoria during the 1990’s, and during this time was the Course Leader for a training program from which the Banksia Environmental Foundation formed.

Alexia has acquired further education in Adult Education in Training; Somatic Psychotherapy; Life Coaching; Conflict Resolution; plus Accreditation in many behavioural and culture change models. She is an Associate of EcoSTEPS, a niche Sustainability consultancy, which supports her love of the natural environment.

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Flowers are exquisitely beautiful and a potent source of inspiration Meditating on a flower can elevate your spirits and soothe your soul.   Now that we are in springtime, there are many beautiful flowers in bloom.

A single rose, an iris, a lily a bottlebrush – all bring to mind a fantastic, almost shocking beauty.    They focus our attention and both energise and calm our stressed-out bodies and minds.   Besides being overwhelmingly beautiful, they are rich with meaning and symbolism.   For Christians, the daffodil symbolises the resurrection of Christ, and violets, the virgin Mary.   The profit Mohammed saw violets as symbols of his teachings.   They are also connected to Persephone and the hereafter – She was strolling through a field of violets when Hades kidnapped her.   And of course, the Lotus flower represents many aspects of the spiritual journey for Buddhism and other eastern religions.

Clearly flowers have a powerful influence on us humans, and for good reason.    Their fragile beauty captivates our imagination and their very presence uplifts and heals.   If you haven’t paid too much attention to flowers, get to know them as objects of meditation.

Meditating with flowers is particularly valuable when you are struggling with an illness or with the loss of a loved one.

The Practice

Pick a flower from your garden or purchase one from a shop.    Place your single flower in a vase on a table in front of you, just below eye level.

Sit in a chair or a cushion.   Take a few deep breaths and set aside any worries or distractions for the next little while.

Focus on the flower in front of you.

Choose to let your thoughts simply wander by like the clouds in the sky without giving them any attention.

Now focus in on the flower’s unique beauty.    Breathe in its scent and visualise the perfume filling your body and healing any illness or health problems or worries you may be experiencing.   If you are grieving a loved one, let the grief be there and let the flower’s essence soothe your broken heart.

End your meditation when your emotions are calm and your breathing is deep and normal.

Adapted from ‘The Meditation Bible – a definitive guide to meditations for every purpose’ by Madonna Gauding.   Goldsfield Press. 2005

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StJohn and Alexia Miall will be leading ‘Meditate for Life’ a Meditation course held in Crows Nest in Sydney on Monday evenings for 8 weeks starting Nov 1st, on which you will learn a number of different Meditation techniques and tools, as well as learning about the role meditation can play in managing stress, finding your inner peace, managing pain, improving relationships, building self confidence and improving brain functioning.

For more information and to register click here. When you visit our website you can also watch a short video on the benefits past prticipants received from doing the course. We look forward to seeing you soon.

StJohn and Alexia Miall

 

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