I have been thinking lately about how often I hear myself and other people say that they just want to be happy and are searching for loving relationships but not finding them. A wonderful teacher of mine always used to say, “Finding love is easy but stopping what we do that keeps it out is the challenge…”
As Petrea says, we neeed to keep ourselves in good shape and then we are in better shape to serve others. I noticed the other day when I was feeling fabulous, that the woman in Coles at the checkout was (to me) so gorgeous and the young man with poor english at the fruit shop was so sweet and I couldn’t help wondering why these same people were so annoying only the week before!
One of the things I sometimes do to ‘keep love out’ is to feel really grumpy with people around me. I build up my expectations and then feel dissappointed when people do not meet them (what chance did they have anyway?) I then feel resentful and before long my full blown martyr is in flight with internal dialogue like “no-one ever helps me” or the like…
When I am in good shape, I can more easily stay with just receiving what love they can give and accepting them for who they are. Hey presto! Love blooms in even the driest desert under this approach.
One of the simple practices I do for raising my happiness is the following: Take your focus to your heart and just let it rest there for a moment or two. Before long, (and if you are not too grumpy) you may feel softening and maybe even joy… If this does not work, see if you can just how you are and come back to it at a later time. At some point, something usually moves and mood improves.
I hope my little insights find all of you ‘Quest bloggers’ well and fluffed up. Love and light to all.
Margie is a somatic psychotherapist and counsellor providing psychotherapy services to the people of the Central Coast and Sydney. Margie lives on the beautiful Central Coast with her husband, two children, two dogs and a cat.
Over the last 12 years, Margie has also been engaged in the design, delivery and marketing of transformational learning programs. During this time she has regularly facilitated personal development programs for up to 50 people on weekend workshops, week-long intensives and advanced programs of 3-4 months.
Margie has a Graduate Certificate in Adult Education from UTS, Diploma in Psychotherapy from the Australian College of Contemporary Somatic Psychotherapy and qualifications in somatic therapy, executive coaching and relationship counselling.
Margie has a passion for personal development and regards people with respect, empathy and compassion in the belief that while we all do the best we can, a little bit more kindness and care can lead to even greater peace and joy in life.