Do you have control issues? Has anyone told you that you are controlling? This meditation will help you learn to let go.
· Makes life more pleasant for you and others
· Helps you understand that everything changes
· Helps you learn to let go of wanting to control everything
If you are a controlling person, it is important to get beyond your symptoms – your need to control the actions of your loved ones or to have the magazines on the coffee table just so – and ask yourself what you are afraid of. Fear usually motivates the desire to control others or your physical space.
If you have received many complaints about your controlling behaviour, you might want to try this meditation.
Write about three occasions on which you can remember feeling anxiety and wanting to control someone else’s behaviour, even if it seemed justified to you at the time.
1. Sit on a cushion or chair in your meditation space. Watch your breath for five minutes.
2. Choose one of the events you listed. Try to recall it in detail. Feel what you were feeling at the time. Perhaps your partner moved a chair and didn’t move it back to where you had placed it when he or she left the room. Was your first feeling one of anger?
3. Ask yourself why it is so important to have things the way you want them, especially since you are sharing your life with another person. If you weren’t feeling anger, would you feel fear? Are you afraid something may happen unexpectedly and you will feel powerless, alone, abandoned? Are you trying to ward off unexpected and hurtful things happening by trying to control your environment, the people around you and the future? Explore the fear behind your need to control.
4. Commit to letting go a little at a time on a daily basis by looking for the fear behind the need for you to control. Relax your grip on things and notice that usually nothing terrible happens. Be kind and patient with yourself in this process.
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Alexia’s career began in banking and then moved via advertising to a major career change in 1980 to Adult and Transformational Education. She has been privileged to share this incredible journey with 1000’s of like minded souls through her extensive experience as a facilitator, trainer, life coach, therapist, and mentor. She managed her own training company in Victoria during the 1990’s, and during this time was the Course Leader for a training program from which the Banksia Environmental Foundation formed.
Alexia has acquired further education in Adult Education in Training; Somatic Psychotherapy; Life Coaching; Conflict Resolution; plus Accreditation in many behavioural and culture change models. She is an Associate of EcoSTEPS, a niche Sustainability consultancy, which supports her love of the natural environment.