This morning I was at the clothes line with a full basket of my daughter’s wet washing. I noticed that she was inside watching reruns of ‘How I met your mother’. Next I noticed that the basket seemed to contain every single sock, pair of undies and top with the one sleeve the wrong way out that she owns. I envisaged at least 20 minutes getting it all on the line… and I began to feel resentful. Very resentful.
My mind was going over and over how inconsiderate teenagers are, how hard I work, how little time I have… get the picture? Busy mind caught up in resentment thinking going around and around and around.
At that moment I stopped and somehow I managed to pluck a tiny piece of awareness out of my overworked and resentful brain and I said to myself … “just choose to do it”.
Wow! Like a whack to the head and in an instant, it was like someone turned on the sound!
Birds whizzed past singing, chirping, squawking and generally communicating loudly and joyously with each other in the trees above me and in the distant bush. “Did they just arrive?” I asked myself. I could hear traffic in the distance, smell the clean washing, I noticed my gorgeous puppy at my feet.
I realised that in the moment I chose to be there and I took my attention away from the busy, busy mad monkey mind and arrived in the moment, my attention immediately went to my senses. I noticed and heard the wildlife, felt the cold, wet fabric and smelled the fragrant, native bush. I could feel my fingertips! Plus I was unexpectedly and gratefully filled with inner joy.
I got to thinking …“What else might I choose”?
There are so many things that seem ‘un-choosable’ but I am going to challenge myself to ask the question more often and especially if I notice resentment creeping in.
Have you had any success or insights with this question? I would love to hear your experiences. Until then, wishing you all many happy ‘hanging the washing out’ moments like mine…
Margie is a somatic psychotherapist and counsellor providing psychotherapy services to the people of the Central Coast and Sydney. Margie lives on the beautiful Central Coast with her husband, two children, two dogs and a cat.
Over the last 12 years, Margie has also been engaged in the design, delivery and marketing of transformational learning programs. During this time she has regularly facilitated personal development programs for up to 50 people on weekend workshops, week-long intensives and advanced programs of 3-4 months.
Margie has a Graduate Certificate in Adult Education from UTS, Diploma in Psychotherapy from the Australian College of Contemporary Somatic Psychotherapy and qualifications in somatic therapy, executive coaching and relationship counselling.
Margie has a passion for personal development and regards people with respect, empathy and compassion in the belief that while we all do the best we can, a little bit more kindness and care can lead to even greater peace and joy in life.