On a recent webinar with Petrea King, a participant asked: How do you stop an immediate response of anger?
Margie has written her response to this question in her words… inspired by Petrea.
Firstly, anger is really more of a reaction than a response and there is a BIG difference between these two. If you find yourself reacting angrily then there are a few quick steps I recommend.
- Notice that you feel really angry
- Feel it in your body
- If possible, remove yourself from the situation (go to the bathroom?)
- Still yourself. Close your eyes. Allow your body to calm down
- Take as long as you need to do this before you respond (‘I need an hour / week / month to think about this” can be a useful line to have tattooed on your inner arm)
- Reflect afterwards on what happened and make a firm resolve NOT to respond in future during a full blown reaction
Finally, I reckon Grandma may have been on the money when she told us to “count to ten before you respond”…
Her next webinar is on Resilience on Monday 21st February at 8pm EST. You can register here.
Love to all
Margie is a somatic psychotherapist and counsellor providing psychotherapy services to the people of the Central Coast and Sydney. Margie lives on the beautiful Central Coast with her husband, two children, two dogs and a cat.
Over the last 12 years, Margie has also been engaged in the design, delivery and marketing of transformational learning programs. During this time she has regularly facilitated personal development programs for up to 50 people on weekend workshops, week-long intensives and advanced programs of 3-4 months.
Margie has a Graduate Certificate in Adult Education from UTS, Diploma in Psychotherapy from the Australian College of Contemporary Somatic Psychotherapy and qualifications in somatic therapy, executive coaching and relationship counselling.
Margie has a passion for personal development and regards people with respect, empathy and compassion in the belief that while we all do the best we can, a little bit more kindness and care can lead to even greater peace and joy in life.